Such a roller coaster world. At the last post I was cautiously proceeding with re-establishing a relationship with our oldest daughter. Since then the world really sped up. DIL Lori's dad passed away Wednesday; traveled to New Underwood SD to babysit ggdaughters (+a few others under 2) during the funeral.
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| Well, sleep with the ggdaughter is helping, right?? |
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| Daddy Mike with Andy and Alexa |
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| Having a conversation with the girls in the mirror |
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| Wylie looks on as they kibbitz |
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| This could have gone on for hours. Arming the watergun |
On the way got the word we should "come now" and bring Whitney to see daughter #2 Lucky. She and Dad had talked a few weeks ago and they agreed we would wait to come when she called him. Before this I told Mona I would take her down; drop her off and quietly leave so as not to stir the boiling pot. Nina called Mona to come. Mona said I was bringing her but Dad was sticking by his agreement to stay away. The reply was he's been called. Thus we went to New Underwood at 10:30 watched the girls from 12:39-2:00 and headed to Colorado Springs stopping in Gillette long enough to pick up Whit, the kids and Mona. Dropped older boys off in Douglas and ended up staying about an hour out. We met Nina at the We 3 shop at 10 am. Dave came down from Woodland Park to pick up Wylie (Arnt Coyote).
The 5 of us had a war council concerning the birthmother Frances. We knew going in that we had to have a united front. She landed her on Wednesday (and of course began her whispering campaign) and had actually been helpful for Nina but she was beginning to wear thin and Lucky seemed to be more agitated as time went on. She is in what is known as an "ICU" of Hospice unit. There aren't too many of them around. They are considered an acute care facility; patients are transfered out when they reach "routine" status. Ken and I discussed how to use our limited resources and chose to use it to keep her here as long as possible. So far it is not needed. If not then we shall help with the cremation cost and print the memorial leaflet.
Mona and I asked to spend the night Sunday - so they (hospice) asked Frances to take her things with her and they would find them a place to stay - blowup city. "My heart, my heart, where's my nitro?" Reply from hubby of 19 years "uhhh you haven't taken that for years".
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Just gonna add what I put on FB here for posterity.
I have been waiting 35 years for it to finally come round ( You know what goes around comes around) It came and I missed it. Hallelujuh!!
The stress level has dropped 50%. Lucky's birthmother was asked by Hospice to not stay the night last night as "other family members" wanted to. (Whit, Mona, me) She blew a gasket and was escorted off the floor. Hospice was going to find them a room (she's been making hubby sleep in pkup - she's been staying in with Lucky telling her who knows what...) They waited for 3.5 hours down the road and followed Nina when she left. Verbally attacked Nina in a 7-11 parking lot; then backed her into a corner not allowing her to get into her car. Nina had 911 ready to push. Police came. No charges pressed if she leaves town and heads back to Texas. Police encouraged Nina to fill out a restraining order on behalf of Lucky.
Ken never said a word all day - giving no ammunition. (Actually he didn't even recognize her as she has gained so much weight! Holy spit Myrtle a lot!!) I, of course, being the rich, blonde, barren Pentecostal that I am (sorry again it's a 35 year old lie she made up about me in 1975) attacked her in the bathroom and gloated that ha, ha, ha, I'M STILL MARRIED TO HIM. ...............EGAD what an idiot. Your DAUGHTER that abused/condoned other to in every way possible was removed from you 35 years ago and you think you have the right to appear now and play the "my poor baby card". I don't think so. (If you believe i did that you need to delete me as a friend as you REALLY don't know me.) The viral 64 year old woman is pure evil. Sorry, couldn't help it.
I'm finding more and more about Colorado I don't care for. First child custody, now I have an issue with the way they run hospice. Hopefully they (Charles and Nina power of attorney, etc) can get the current issue settled today. Otherwise I'ma thinking Ken and I will probably becoming squeaky wheels. We have 48 hours to make a lot of noise and squeak, squeak, squeak. (OK so I retract that statement. I found out about the ICU of Hospice and it makes sense.)
Am finding that Lucky has a lot of wonderful friends. We are discovering she was a mentor; computer 'go to" person; loyal friend. The last 8 years here in C.S. have been the happiest of her life; struggles and all.
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| You can stay here for virtually nothing - Frances can't |
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| April, 2010 |
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| July 8, 2011 |
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